Welcome to Mars: A Man's Beginner Experience with Tantric Sex Pt. 2

What up Freakz & Geekz!


Here is Part 2 of our first Welcome to Mars feature by guest blogger @Coreman2200. Share his first experience in the Tantric realm! If this doesn't make you want to take up Tantric I don't know what will. Click here for part 1. Read on...


What makes this whole experience so utterly brilliant (besides the fact that it in my case had been a 1+ hour long orgasmic adventure ;) is that, again, it is like remembering part of you. And since the first time, I have been able to tap back into it without much effort. The lack of control is scary, at first (we’re so accustomed to keeping our composure, even in the privacy of our very own bed rooms), so it may feel bizarre or even scary to give in to what at its most intense can be convulsive fits at even the slightest touch - this can be especially troublesome if you are not wholly in-tune with your partner (new love), or if this is all Self-generated (new Awareness). But let me assure you that the best thing you can do in this space is just to roll with it. For one, control comes in time as you come to See what is going on with your body, and only by letting go can you come to understand this. But in the end, to deny this and not explore it is to deny and ignore your very Self, and this will not do! Fear Not! Free Your Self!

        
For those curious, here are some tips to get you going and (more or less) on the right track to finding your own tantric adventure. Note that I’m no master at this, and should probably not even offer such advice for that reason. Ha! But I believe in sharing experiences, if for no other reason than to help illuminate someone else’s journey. So I hope these tips help! Here we go:

- Be calm, be patient, be still - Meditate! Meditation in my view is the only reason I was able to get to this other step so fluidly, because a lot of the same efforts are utilized. You have to be comfortable with freeing yourself of your thinking and distractions. It has to be all about you becoming one with and more greatly attuned to your Self. Meditation will most certainly help in this regard.

- If you play music, make sure it is music that resonates with you - flows with you - moves to your specific vibe (and if applicable, to your partners). Otherwise it becomes distracting, and distraction is the Last thing you want on this journey.

- Don’t Stress It. Just as in meditation, the point is not to think about meditating, itself, or your wants/desires, but clearing your Mind, and clearing away all the clutter (distraction) so that the Self  can speak through you directly, clearly.

- Find a book on Tantric exercises/massages/sexuality and become Aware of steps they suggest (breathing techniques, massages, settings and misc. ambiance adjustments) - to know how/where to touch your Self and/or your partner when the time comes is Very useful!

- I think this is the most important tip: Be Aware of your Energy and all the energy around you. It is Key. It is in fact what you are feeling - the loving rhythmic dance and caress of energy between you, perhaps a partner, and all of your surrounding Universe.

Dive In!

coreman2200




Rest assured we will be blogging further with the Core himself! And look out for more info on the Tantric experience right here!


*Get Freaked & Geeked*

Tricks are for....

The next time you see your man/lover/boytoy/fwb as soon as the door closes behind you, you walk him over to 

1. the living room couch: You give him a nice nudge that forces him to land square in the middle of the couch. This is your night to start off with. Put your dominatrix bustier on (well metaphorically speaking). Proceed to straddle your man. Doesn't have to be fancy, but it needs to be assertive enough so he knows that you are in control tonight and you mean business. Try not to knock anything off the coffee table unless clumsy looks cute on you. He is not allowed to touch you just yet. Use this to your advantage. Tease him with your tongue. If you don't know his spots, this is your chance to find them. And if you don't know what his penis looks like, this is your chance to get acquainted. If you are not into getting acquainted with his penis orally, then you continue to torture him with your tongue and you hands. Be mindful of the fine line between exciting and "omg! one more lick and my dick will be soft!" You undress him. You direct him where you want him to go. But I don't see why you'd want to go anywhere else when straddling him on the couch perfectly allows you to control the penetration, allows for deep penetration, ANNNND provides clitoral stimulation. After all... it IS about you tonight. Trust me, any man worth his dick will want to look down and see you workin it, reigning and raining all over him ;) . Prime real estate... it's all about the view!! Now for those of us who don't mind getting acquainted with the dick, all of the above may fall into round 2 or 3 of your session. Because after you treat him to a suck and a blow, he'll definitely want to repay the favor. Well, he should. And if he doesn't, drop that fool... he's crowding the space of someone who could be putting in as much work as you are. So!... Once u reach the undress point above you will be faced with that beautiful strong dick of his. I really won't get into too many details here since we will be adding tricks a.k.a tips on how to really give good head. For now though, here are some pointers to take with you:

• It helps to know what your man likes and how he likes it, but that doesn't mean there isn't room to blow his mind with something different every now and then
• Don't be afraid of deep throating. Gagging is a reflex caused by tension and anxiety... so relax literally, and relax your throat. You really can't choke on his penis unless you actually try to swallow it. And unless you have mastered some skill using the muscles at the back of your throat to create different sensations.... Just relax... really. It'll allow you both to enjoy the experience. Yes... it is less enjoyable for him if you are heaving on or actually throwing up on his dick.... unless he's into that... and that's a whole other blog. 
• If deep throating just isn't your thing use your hands to mimic an extension of your mouth.
• it's good to switch it up but when you feel him getting to that point. Unless the plan was just to get him aroused, keep it steady. Some guys like the motion to increase in speed and intensity, some don't. But just like switching positions or oral motions can kinda reset your orgasm, changing the motion or stopping does the same for him.
• Please do not forget to lubricate. I mean... don't be afraid to get your saliva involved in the festivities, however refrain from creating wild water kingdom on his dick with your mouth. He prefers that after you come. During head it just feels like he's thrusting his dick into a heated pool (see how exciting that is if you don't have arthritis?)
• Lil Wayne was right... you can and should lick it like a lollipop... i.e. Suction baby, suction! (hmm... maybe he was wrong and it should be suck it like a lollipop. . . something to think about)
• Did I say Relax? Relax! and even if you have no clue what you are doing here's some basic shit: mind your teeth, form a nice O with your lips and keep your teeth awaaay from the action. And bring the confidence too... if nothing else that'll get you off to a great start!!!!

P.S. the kitchen counter, dining room table, washing machine/dryer, the trunk/hood of the car, the patio chair are all excellent options for this. 

Disclaimer :You'll need somewhere sturdy... so use of the dining room table or any other furniture is at your discretion. We here at F&G are not liable for any injury that you may incur during the practice of this exercise. But have fun while trying:)!!

Geek => Freak!

My Soldier - Act 1 Scene 1

I got into the car. Said hello. Not another word. But my eyes said so much more. I restrained myself from reaching over the arm rest and getting him ready for what was already under way between my thighs. No. No foreplay. As hard as it was, I was on a mission. He was the enemy and I wanted to see just how quickly he would load that weapon up. I wanted to find out just how deadly he was. I wanted him to fuck me till I died. . . a slow orgasmic death.

In dead silence, we pulled into the driveway. Got out of the car. I walked deliberately to the door - making sure that each step made my ass jiggle, that each sway made my silhouette more irresistible. He followed. I opened the door. Maintained my stride. No need to look back. He was sure to follow. 

I proceeded up the stairs to the bedroom. The cling of glass. He was grabbing the wine. "No need!" I said firmly. And he knew it was on. Quick steps up the stairs. He stepped through the door and there I was. Black stilettos and a trench coat. Standing. Waiting. He approached steadily, motioning for me to share the secret underneath. The chill outside had made me achingly aware of the lust between my thighs. . . all for him. I unbuttoned. His face lit up with a smile. He deliberately took me in. From black stilettos, glowing skin, wet pussy evident by the juices glistening on my thick thighs, round hips, tiny waist, to my supple breasts. 


By the time he got to my pussy he was already saluting as if he knew the general was approaching. Three seconds flat. The closer he got the wetter I became....


To be continued...

Eat your way to Orgasm heaven!

So on Dr. Oz on Tuesday, author Marrena Lindberg appeared promoting her Orgasmic Diet "a 3-step plan to help women boost their libido and achieve orgasm." (You'll find the link on the right)


For the most part, Lindberg makes sense. Besides the fact that eating more healthily may allow you to live longer to enjoy more sex, feeling healthy always has a positive effect on self esteem, confidence, and ability to perform. Below are the three steps and I have included 1 tip to each of the steps.

1. Increase testosterone: We know it's linked to libido and arousal in men and women. One of the ways to do this is to make proteins at least 30% of your caloric intake. A great side effect of eating protein is increased metabolism which means you'll be burning fat when you aren't having sex. 
2. Increase dopamine: Eat fish! The omega-3 fatty acids in fish and fish oil supplements helps increase dopamine. Dopamine is essential to pleasure... pleasurable sex is fun every now and then, no? Make sure to consult with a physician first since supplements may cause drug interactions.
3. Decrease Serotonin: Reduce starchy foods and sugar. Ever notice that major high and then the even major crash after you binge on cake, cookies, sweets and more junk food? Yeah, that's it! If you are on psych meds this step may not be for you since e.g. depression meds work to increase serotonin in the brain. Never fear there is plenty that you can do in the other 2 steps to help your drive. You can also talk to your psychiatrist about changing medication if the low libido is a severe side effect.

Don't forget that not smoking, limiting caffeine intake, and regular exercise also contribute to a healthier lifestyle. Around here there are no self-proclaimed health gurus and diet enthusiasts. However, we do want you to have your best sex while you are alive :).